Focus.
That is not a word I often use to describe myself. By my nature I’m easily distracted. Not because I can’t pay attention when I want to – but because so many things fascinate me it’s hard to concentrate on just one thing.
As a kid I never had a hard time thinking of something I wanted to be when I grew up. There were so many exciting possibilities. Would I be an astronaut? How about a comic book artist? A writer? The next Indiana Jones?
As an adult it’s still hard for me to focus on just one goal. There are still so many things I want to do with my life that sometimes I feel paralyzed – not by fear, but by excitement. I am excited about all the amazing possibilities that lay before me.
In Wide Awake, Erwin McManus suggests that the most difficult decisions in life aren’t between good and evil – but between two equally good choices.
I think this is true.
After all, how do we make a decision between becoming an astronaut and a doctor? Or a football star instead of a baseball player? Or the most important question of all: hot dogs or hamburgers?
Life is filled with endlessly good choices competing for our attention. That’s why it’s fundamentally important to know what we won’t negotiate. We need to know what things we won’t surrender no matter what the situation. And dare I say, no matter the cost?
This applies just as much to our faith as it does to our lives.
It’s hard to know how to interpret rock bands (good), or long hair (meh), or the prosperity gospel (bad) if you don’t know what your nonnegotiables are. If we don’t know what defines God, then we get upset over something as simple as the music you play in church.
When everything has equal importance you can’t separate preferences from necessities. And so we attack people who have a different set of preferences – even when they agree with us on the necessities.
Of course there’s something deeper here too. We can’t live “wide awake” if we don’t know our core convictions. We can’t live out our dreams if we don’t know when to say “no” and when to say “yes.”
Ravi Zacharias tells a story about Henry Martyn.
Martyn was not an attractive man. (Or at least that’s what history records.) Because of his embarrassment by the way he looked, he preferred to stay away from people. He lived his life on the edges of relationships. That is, until a young woman was able to see beyond his appearance, and fell in love with him.
Naturally he fell in love with her.
His other love was God. So sitting in church one day, Martyn heard about India and the desperate need to bring God to the people of that country. Suddenly Martyn knew what his dream was. He knew that to live wide awake, he had to move to India.
And so he went to the woman he loved and asked her to join him.
She refused.
Devestated Martyn began to question his calling to Africa. Was this really the dream God had for him? Was he even hearing it correctly? How could he choose between India and the woman he loved?
As he wrestled with his choice he realized it wasn’t a choice between a woman and India – but between this special woman and God.
Henry Martyn knew what was nonnegotiable in his life. He knew that nothing was more important than God. As hard as it must have been, he left England and moved to India. And died there at the age of 31.
Martyn risked everything, and sacrificed so much, because he knew the things he couldn’t compromise. His decision cost him the woman he loved, produced tremendous physical suffering, and in the end took his life. But because he knew his priorities, he lived his life with both focus and purpose. He lived wide awake.
So what are your nonnegotiables? What will you never compromise?
