What do you do when you make a mistake?
That’s a question I think very few people actually think about. Oh sure we all do something when we’ve made a mistake. But very few of us actually think through our actions, we usually just react.
The way I see it, there are only a few options.
- Do nothing – we essentially say, “I did something wrong and I am so scared of doing it again, and so scared of the consequences, I will never do anything again.” When we do nothing, we shut down. We can’t be used by God because we aren’t interested in being used by God. We become like the ostrich who shoves his head in the sand, thinking he is hiding.
- Do the same thing – we make a mistake, but choose to do the same thing over and over. This is the whole, “I am sorry I hurt you/ was a jerk, etc…” line. And then the next day you’re back to your old habits. We say it, and maybe in the moment we are sorry. But not sorry enough to actually change. This is where we are when we continue to commit one of our “favorite” sins (for instance, you repeatedly get angry at a coworker).
- Repent - True repentance. This is where we truly turn to God and say, “I am sorry, help me never to do this again.” Where we fully turn away from our actions and embrace God.
Why do I bring all this up? Because Carrie Prejean, a former Miss USA winner is involved in another controversy. It turns out she was involved in making a “sex tape.”
For some celebrities this wouldn’t be a big deal. Society often seems to reward people who do this. We’ve all read the stories about a celebrity “losing” provocative pictures in a PR attempt to revitalize a career. But for Prejean, who has started teaching and talking about “family values” this is a big issue.
Rarely do we talk about current events on R3. I believe that the Bible offers us timeless principles that apply no matter the event. And I almost never talk about a specific individual. There’s enough gossip and junk out there, we don’t need to add to that. But sometimes I make exceptions. And that’s where I am with this.
I have no idea what’s on the tape. I don’t know why it was made. And frankly I don’t want to know. To me that’s irrelevant. What matters is how Prejean decides to act. And to a lesser extent how we, as a society, respond.
We all have made mistakes. How many of us would really feel comfortable having our mistakes be national news? What Carrie Prejean did was wrong, and it was a mistake, and that’s not an excuse. But does this prevent her from ever talking about family values? There are many people who very much want that to be the case. (As I was flipping the channels late one night I saw one panel of “experts” gleefully declaring this meant she could no longer talk about family values.)
Personally I don’t know if this tape excludes her from talking about family values. I know there are a lot of people who are gleefully hoping that will be the case. For her to fall, would be a major victory for them. This situation brings legitimate questions that she must answer. But when I look at the Bible I see people who aren’t perfect. I see people lose their temper, act in fear, commit adultery and murder.
Yet God still uses them in powerful ways.
God doesn’t expect us to be perfect. But he does ask us to repent.
Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament was actively seeking to kill Christians prior to his conversion. Does that mean he can’t talk about sin? Or does it mean he has unique insight into the redemption that Christ offers? Moses murdered someone before God chose him to become the leader of Israel. Did that exclude him from talking about freedom to Pharaoh? Peter acted in both anger and fear in the last hours of Jesus’ life – but God used him as the rock upon which the church was built. Was God wrong in all of this?
God doesn’t expect us to be perfect. But he does ask us to repent. And in each of these cases, they repented and turned away from their sins. So I ask you, what do you do when you make a mistake?
Carrie has the same three options that we do. She can do nothing. She can do the same thing. Or she can repent.
I don’t know what she plans to do. Right now it sounds like she wants to repent. But saying you want to repent and actually repenting can be two different things. It’s much easier to offer false promises than to take the hard work of repentance. Is it any different for us? So again, I ask you, what do you do when you make a mistake?