Oct 16

    

Sometimes I get caught up in my life.  I get wrapped up in the details as they say.  I worry about the little things and because of that I stop focusing on what God is doing in my life.  Third Day has a song called “Blind” that captures this thought nicely. 

How could I have been so blind to not see you
The more that I look the more I find
You’ve led me to the truth
That I am nothing if I’m without you
You opened my eyes and helped me to find
How could I have been so blind

 focusing on God

God, all too often I spend my time worrying about all the mistakes I’ve made instead of focusing on you.  Help me not to do that.  Remind me that you’ve already forgiven my past, and I can’t control the future, so help me to just focus on the present.  Help me to always keep my eyes fixed on you.  So even if it doesn’t feel like I’m accomplishing anything, as long as I’m following you let that be enough.  Amen.

 <comments are open, feel free to add your own prayer asking to remain focused on God>

 

Sep 12

   

At any given moment we have an almost limitless amount of choices.  What do I wear today?  What should I have to eat?  Do I really want to go to the gym?  Who will I go out with tonight?  Do I even want to go out?

And those are just the superficial questions.  There are times when we’re faced with choices that will change our lives forever.  Do I cheat on my wife?  Do I steal from work?  Should I have an abortion?

Every moment of life presents us with choices.  It’s a great burden, but it’s also exciting.  Good decisions often lead to a life of wonderful experiences.  Bad choices can seemingly ruin our lives.  We read books about decision making.  We study things like “leadership” in schools and laboratories.  We measure a person’s genetics to see if they will make good decisions or bad.  We even have dartboards that make our choices for us.  Yet how often do we stop and ask God what he thinks about our choices?

Moses, David, and Jesus all had regular conversations with God.  They all asked him questions as they were making major decisions.  Moses asked for strength as he led the Israelites away from Egypt.  David asked for forgiveness because of his adultery.  And Jesus made sure God really wanted him to sacrifice his life for ours.

Each of those men faced major life decisions and turned to God for help.  To me that seems like a good model to follow.  I don’t want to get to Heaven only to find out I didn’t live my life to the fullest - just because I was afraid to ask God what I should do. 

Prayer is part of how we are to live as Christians.  It’s part of what separates us from this world, while also making us able to serve the needs in this world.  Paul tells us that prayer should be part of how we fight off the dangers of this world.  Why would he say that if he didn’t think it would make a difference in our lives? 

So in this third part of our phrases series, I have just one question: have you prayed about it?   

Jul 31

 

There’s no question that sometimes God doesn’t move as fast as we’d like him to.  Maybe we’re waiting for a friend to be healed, or a family member to be encouraged, or sometimes we just don’t have the strength to keep fighting.  It’s in those moments that we can’t understand where God is, and why he hasn’t “shown up.”  And so fear and doubt begin to creep into our minds.  But God’s perspective is different than ours, and that means he sometimes sees things differently than we do.  He hasn’t forgotten us, or abandoned us, we just need to be patient and trust him.

Patience - or “Why I hate sitting at red lights”

God - help me to be more patient.  Help me to trust you more.  Because I certainly don’t wait for you like I should.  I want to always be going, and never have to slow down or stop.  I don’t want to wait, because I’m in too much of a hurry.  Help me to understand that sometimes the reason I need to wait is that I’m not ready for what you’re going to do.  That I need time to grow into someone who can handle the amazing ways you act.  Remind me when I’m impatient that maybe the reason I need to wait is for my own good, for my own safety.  And that by waiting for you, you’re making sure I’m not hit broadside by something unplanned.

<comments are open, feel free to add your own prayer for patience>

Jul 3

 

God wants us to be in a relationship with him, and it’s difficult to do that if you don’t spend any time talking to him.  That’s where prayer comes in.  It’s simply a conversation between you and God.  It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or formal.  In fact, usually the most important prayers come when we’re just speaking from our hearts, not worrying about finding the “right words.”

On prayer thursday everyone is invited to add their own prayer, or prayer requests in the comments section.  This week’s topic: obedience.

Obedience

God - Sometimes we hear you telling us to do something and we ignore you.  Sometimes we ignore you because we’re afraid.  Other times it’s because we “know better.”  But lets face it, we really don’t.  We just want to be the ones in charge.  We’re stubborn.

Help me to overcome my own selfishness, and stubbornness.  Help me to resist the temptation to do it “my way.”  But most of all, help me follow you, even when it feels too big or too overwhelming.  Help me be obedient when I think I can’t.

 <comments are open>

Jun 19

     

I am convinced that God answers prayers.  I’m also convinced that praying is the quickest way to build a relationship with him.  No matter how much you read a biography about someone, or no matter how many times you’ve heard someone describe a stranger, you never really know someone until you talk to them. 

So I’m going to start a new regular feature on R3: prayer thursday. 

On every “prayer thursday”, there will be something to pray about.  Some days it will be for others, some days it will be for ourselves, and other times it will be for whatever you feel like.  I’m also opening up comments so anyone can post their prayer.

Dreams

God - it’s all too easy to live a life where we don’t follow our dreams.  We all have unique skills that you want to use to change the world.  Help us to live out those dreams and not settle for something less.  Something that doesn’t feel so daunting.  Let us reach for the dreams you’ve given us.

comments are open

Feb 18

         

God - I see just how far I need to go, and once again just how broken I am.  Please, please forgive me.  I want to sin, even when I say I don’t want to.  Please help me stay on the right path, because only through you can I change.  Only through you do I have strength. 

I want to act when  you tell me to act.  Please give me the strength to mean that and not just say it…

Feb 13

        

There’s something about driving in a car that brings out the best in us.  And by best I mean homicidal rage. 

Following God is more than an hour commitment on Sunday or a visit to an orphanage.  It’s about the way we live our lives.  This means that God has something to say about all aspects of our life.  And driving is no exception.  So I decided to follow through with some good old fashioned Biblical advice and love my enemies. 

Kind of radical, I know.  But it was hard to follow through on that.  How could I love someone when they were so clearly a moron?  Didn’t God see the fact this guy didn’t use his turn signal?!  Didn’t God know that parking space was mine?! 

Of course God did. 

But none of that excuses me for getting angry.  And I knew I had to act.   

The solution: drive-by prayers.  Whenever someone cuts me off in traffic I take a deep breath and ask God to do something for that person.  I don’t ask for wishy-washy “God please bless this person.”  (Although there’s probably nothing wrong with that prayer.)  But I prefer to spend some time and actively think of something specific to pray about.  Maybe it’s good health, no car troubles, or just having a great day.  I want what I pray for to have a real impact on their lives.  I want them to know God’s greatness through that act.  I try to focus on the other person, and in a small way, love them. 

It’s not easy.  Especially for those people who literally put your life in danger.  Sometimes all I can do is ask God that the person ahead of me (or behind me) realizes that they are risking the lives of other drivers. 

The one thing I include in all of these drive-by prayers is that whenever God acts on that prayer, they realize it comes from Him.  In the end I have no idea if these prayers make a difference with these drivers.  I’ll never see them again.  But they impact me.  They force me to think of others before myself, even when I don’t want to.  They put me in a service mindset. 

Like I said, this isn’t always easy.  But being a Christian isn’t about doing things that are easy.  It’s about living in a way that shows people we’re different.  And that there’s something more to life than getting to soccer practice on time or meeting friends promptly at 5:00 for dinner. 

Oct 22

   

It may seem strange to say this, but money is the reason I’m a Christian.

“Wha-?!”  I know, that’s your reaction.  You’re either thinking I’m crazy - because for most people there is very little profit and wealth to be had in being a Christian.  Or you are probably saying, “I knew Christians were all about money!”

And yet it’s entirely true, I am a Christian because of money. So let me explain…

Deciding to give money to a church was the single most important decision I have ever made.  It was through that decision that God showed me who he was.  It was through that decision that I became a Christian.  It was through that decision I sit here at my computer typing out this post.

Of course I had no idea it would all turn out this way when I decided to make a financial commitment.  At the time I didn’t really believe in God.  I sort of thought maybe there was a god-like person out there.  But he certainly wasn’t concerned about me.  But for some reason I felt compelled to trust, and to give.

I vividly remember listening to this guy talk from a stage.  It was dark, but there were thousands of people there, and you could hear them shuffling around.  The guy from stage was talking about needing to build a bigger church so they could make room for their friends.  He talked about God, and sacrifice, and blessings, and faith, and trust.  Finally he asked us to pray.  He asked us to listen for what God might want us to do with our money. 

There was no pressure.  No threat of damnation or condemnation.  Just a simple request that we ask God what we should do – and that we follow through when God gave us his answer. 

Prior to that moment I had only taken prayer seriously on a few occasions.  And I’m not sure I had ever considered God might answer me!  I had always assumed prayer was a one way event - I talk, he listens.  So this was a new experience for me.  As I sat there, aware of my surroundings, but also not, a number popped into my head.  A big number.  A number much bigger than I would have wanted to give.  In fact, 3 times what I had planned on giving.

I had wanted to play it “safe.”  Give just what I knew I could afford, but nothing that would prevent me from living a lifestyle that I wanted. 

But this….this was risky.  This was dangerous.  As Erwin McManus says, I was hearing the Barbarian Call.  If I went with this new number it was going to be a serious financial burden.  It was going to impact my life.  I wouldn’t be able to go out with friends as much.  I’d have to cut back on a lot of things.

I can’t really say why I went with it, but I wrote that number down and turned it in.  I found I was both terrified and relieved.  I didn’t have that kind of money saved anywhere.  I didn’t even make enough to cover the difference.  I just trusted that the “voice” I heard was God, and not the burrito I had eaten for lunch.  For the first time in my life I actually trusted God.

And that simple decision changed my life forever.

Slowly God used that simple act of trust to remind me of what he could do.  He began to encourage me to trust him in other areas.  And each time I trusted I was both terrified and relieved.  Now whenever I reach a moment where I’m afraid to act, God reaches back and says, “remember when you thought that number was too big?  Remember when you said, ‘I can’t do this’?  Well, remember how I did it for you?”

There is nothing more encouraging than stepping out in faith and allowing God to lead you.  Learning for certain that there is a God who cares about your life and your happiness is one of the most freeing experiences a person can ever have.    

So that’s why money is the reason I’m a Christian.

Oct 15

   

If you’ve been a Christian for a while - or are even considering being one - you’ll often have people tell you what you “need” to do to be one.  Some of you may even feel that way about this site!

When I became a Christian a few years ago I began to realize that God is too diverse and people are too diverse to have “one” way to know God.  It seems inconceivable that there is only “one” way to worship, or “one” way to pray, or “one” way to show God that you love him.  I’m positive that the way God communicates with me (and ultimately convinced me he was real) would not work with other people.  So if God can reach me as an individual, why can’t he reach others in the exact way they need to be reached?

That’s not to say there aren’t “good” things to do as a Christian.  Things that maybe we should all practice.  After all, even Jesus was very deliberate about the time he spent in prayer and about the people he got to know.  So let’s be clear: I’m not talking about whether it’s okay to sin, or if such and such an activity is a sin or isn’t.  Those are different topics.  What I’m referring to are those activities that seem like good ideas, but maybe aren’t for everyone.

At the top of my list is “morning prayer.”  I’m not a morning person.  I don’t like people, I don’t like animals, I barely like my cereal.  I don’t want to pray just for the sake of prayer.  I detest anything that smacks of religion for religion’s sake.  So I’ve always resisted having a specific period of time in the morning devoted to prayer. 

But I can’t seem to escape this idea.  So many people do it.  And so many people talk about how important it is to their relationship with God.  Was I missing out on something? 

Earlier this year I was really wrestling with this question.  I was wondering if I needed to set aside a specific time to pray so I could “feel” God.  As I was praying about it I realized that God has always been there to talk to me regardless of my activity (eating, driving, showering, crying about my fantasy football team…).

I’ve always feared that if I tried to “confine” those conversations with God to a “morning devotional” or some such thing, I’d lose out on one of the greatest aspects of God - that he’s a living, relational God.  So I decided against any formal morning prayers.  If they happened, great.  If not, so be it.  

That’s been my view for the better part of 8 months.

But then I read CS Lewis.  He says, “that is why the real problem of the Christian life comes where people do not usually look for it.  It comes the very moment you wake up each morning.  All your wishes and hopes for the day rush at you like wild animals.  And the first job each morning consists simply of shoving them all back; in listening to that other voice, taking that other point of view, letting that other larger, stronger, quieter life come flowing in.” (Mere Christianity, p 198)

What if he’s right? What if in the morning we are really fighting our “natural” selves more than, say, at lunchtime? In that case prayer becomes hugely important, because I know I can’t change who I am on my own. I need Christ for that.

If God is leading us each on an important path, a path that is unique to us, then we need to be sensitive to that direction.  And how can we be sensitive to that if we allow our “natural” selves to control us from the start of the day?  We will always be playing catch up.  And if football teaches us anything it is playing from behind is difficult!

Now I’m still not convinced that prayer in the morning is something God always wants us to do.  But I think it is clear that praying in the morning is more than just a “religious” act.  It is also more important than I originally believed.  It is something that I think each of us needs to talk to God about. 

God doesn’t want us to do anything out of obligation.  But if setting some time aside in the morning helps bring me closer to God, than I am all for it!